Pamela Edwards, Melbourne, Australia

We were married 12 years. .life was difficult as marriage was..this isn’t or wasn’t the first time he cheated but this was the first one I found out about who it was happening with. Right under my nose. Our daughter was 6 at that time. He often went away for work ..but this time he acted weird. .he would go outside to talk and as I knew he was a cheat, I realized he was at it again. I checked his phone and found all sorts of messages from this woman. She was asking him when he would leave me ..I was devastated. .she demanded he move away with her..not asking but gave him an ultimatum. .disregarding his wife and child. I called her and asked her what she was doing with my husband, she hung up on me. He moved out the next day, I begged him to stay and tell me the truth. He denied anything was going on. Then 3 days later I tried calling her again, this time she had an attitude. Her voice and British accent were annoying. She told me that she was the woman he loved and he was done with me. She told me he was with her. Eventually I saw her and it made me more furious. She stole my husband and life from me, and even had the audacity to insult me for being a lousy wife. That’s why he cheated because I didn’t have what she had. I was stunned. She had no remorse. I hated her and him and I still do. Eventually they moved away together, denying my daughter of her father. Then I followed to the place they were. To be nearer for our child. He filed for a divorce. It destroyed me and I wanted to die. Eventually I looked for info on this woman. .she was from UK in a small place in Rhyl. She was known there too for having an affair with a married man. .but he didn’t leave his wife. She moved to Australia. .she is a pest and an evil woman. Even after all shes caused, she treated me with contempt, as if I owed her. I wish them both misery. I know now it was a blessing. .I am happy in a new relationship with honest and true love. They can have each other.

 

 

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4 thoughts on “Pamela Edwards, Melbourne, Australia

  1. She looks like a hag. Seriously! On top of that, she’s going to age badly and then he’ll wish he had you back. He will eventually have feelings of regret and may already. Take comfort in knowing that and in telling that loser to get lost when he comes back begging. They always do.

  2. No, I don’t think it’s good advice. It’s just anteohr stereotype. It’s the same as saying to a boy Don’t date girls, they’re all gold-diggers and all they want is your money. Spreading generalization and sexism isn’t going to help anyone.

  3. IN RESPONSE TO YOUR SLANDERING MESSAGE, MEREDITH DAWN ANNE NEWALL, I’VE ATTACHED MY SIDE OF THE STORY FOR YOU TO KNOW. I’M NOT REALLY SURE WHY YOU HAVE MADE THIS POST IN FEBRUARY, 2015 AS IT HAPPENED ALMOST 7 YEARS AGO AND I HAVEN’T BEEN IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH THIS MAN FOR THREE YEARS. I JUST WISH YOU HAD CONTACTED ME DIRECTLY INSTEAD OF AIRING ON SOCIAL MEDIA
    We were married 12 years. .life was difficult as marriage was..this isn’t or wasn’t the first time he cheated but this was the first one I found out about who it was happening with. Right under my nose. Our daughter was 6 (IT WAS HER 8TH BIRTHDAY TWO WEEKS AFTER I MET HER IN 2009, I HAVE A PHOTO WITH THE NUMBER 8 ON IT???) at that time. He often went away for work ..but this time he acted weird. .he would go outside to talk and as I knew he was a cheat, I realised he was at it again. I checked his phone and found all sorts of messages from this woman. She was asking him when he would leave me. (WE MET WHEN HE WAS LIVING IN MELBOURNE AND YOU WERE IN BRISBANE. HE SAID HE WAS MOVING TO BRISBANE TO BE CLOSE TO HIS DAUGHTER. HE TOLD ME YOU WERE ALREADY SEPERATED WHEN I MET HIM AND THAT YOU HAD BOTH AGREED TO PART. HE ALSO SAID YOU WERE GOING TO BE LIVING IN THE SAME HOUSE BUT SEPERATELY SO HE COULD BE NEAR HIS DAUGHTER, WITH YOU LIVING UPSTAIRS AND HE DOWNSTAIRS. HE TOLD ME YOU POLISHED OFF A BOTTLE OF RUM MOST NIGHTS AND WERE OFTEN TRASHED, OUT DRUNK, ACROSS THE TABLE WHICH WAS WHY HE WANTED TO LIVE IN THE HOUSE, TO PROTECT HIS CHILD. HE SAID YOUR MARRIAGE DIDN’T WORK BECAUSE YOU WERE AN ALCOHOLIC)..I was devastated. .she demanded he move away with her..not asking but gave him an ultimatum.disregarding his wife and child. . (HE ASKED ME TO MOVE FROM MELBOURNE TO BRISBANE SO I COULD BE WITH HIM) I called her and asked her what she was doing with my husband, she hung up on me. (YOU KNOW THIS IS A LIE MEREDITH. I HAVE NEVER MET YOU OR EVEN SPOKEN WITH YOU, EVER)
    He moved out the next day, I begged him to stay and tell me the truth. He denied anything was going on. Then 3 days later I tried calling her again, this time she had an attitude. (ANOTHER LIE) Her voice and British accent were annoying. She told me that she was the woman he loved and he was done with me. She told me he was with her. Eventually I saw her and it made me more furious. (THIS IS A COMPLETE LIE, I’VE NEVER MET YOU IN MY LIFE OR SPOKEN WITH YOU) She stole my husband and life from me, and even had the audacity to insult me for being a lousy wife. That’s why he cheated because I didn’t have what she had. I was stunned. She had no remorse. I hated her and him and I still do. Eventually they moved away together, denying my daughter of her father. (THIS IS ANOTHER LIE) Then I followed to the place they were. To be nearer for our child. (YOU MOVED AWAY TO DARWIN, 3,500KLMS FROM HIM IN REVENGE TO MAKE IT HARDER FOR HIM TO SEE HIS DAUGHTER) He filed for a divorce. It destroyed me and I wanted to die. Eventually I looked for info on this woman. .she was from UK in a small place in Rhyl. She was known there too for having an affair with a married man. (THAT IS ANOTHER COMPLETE LIE, I WAS NOT MUCH MORE THAN A TEENAGER WHEN I MOVED TO AUSTRALIA) .but he didn’t leave his wife. She moved to Australia. .she is a pest and an evil woman.
    Even after all shes caused, she treated me with contempt, as if I owed her. I wish them both misery. I know now it was a blessing. .I am happy in a new relationship with honest and true love. They can have each other.
    MEREDITH, READING THIS MAKES ME REALLY SAD. YOU OBVIOUSLY FEEL A LOT OF HATE FOR ME AND LOOKING FROM YOUR WRITTEN POINT OF VIEW, I CAN SEE WHY.
    LET ME MAKE IT CLEAR, HE LIED TO BOTH OF US. THE SORRY PART IS THAT YOU HAVE EXAGERATED YOUR STORY TO MAKE ME LOOK WORSE WHEN, IN ACTUAL FACT HE IS THE ONE WHO SHOULD BE FEELING YOUR WRATH. IF I HAD KNOWN HALF OF WHAT I KNOW NOW, THERE IS NO WAY I WOULD HAVE GONE ANYWHERE NEAR HIM. I WISH I’D NEVER MET HIM FOR BOTH OUR SAKES BUT UNFORTUNATELY I DID.
    THIS WILL NO DOUBT MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER, YOU MIGHT CALL IT KARMA …
    WE WERE TOGETHER FOR FOUR YEARS, THE LAST TWELVE MONTHS OF WHICH HE CHEATED ON ME BY HAVING AN AFFAIR WITH SOMEONE I KNEW. I FOUND THIS FROM HIS TEXTS. I WORKED AWAY A LOT AND HE WOULD DROP ME OFF AT THE AIRPORT THEN GO ROUND TO HERS. WHEN I FOUND THEM OUT, HE COMPLETELY DROPPED HER AND TOLD EVERYONE THAT SHE WAS LYING AND TRYING TO SPLIT OUR RELATIONSHIP UP. HE COMPLETELY TRASHED HER REPUTATION. THIS WOMAN THEN SENT ME A COPY OF THEIR MESSAGES, THEIR TEXTS AND EMAILS TO PROVE THAT THEY HAD BEEN HAVING AN AFFAIR FOR A FULL TWELVE MONTHS. SHE TOLD ME THINGS NO ONE ELSE KNEW AND SHE EVEN DISCRIBED MY BEDROOM AND TOLD ME WHAT FURNITURE I HAD, THEY HAD THE AFFAIR RIGHT UNDER MY NOSE FOR A FULL YEAR. HE LIED TO ME AND DENIED IT SO CONVINCINGLY. WHEN I CONFRONTED HIM, HE CRIED LIKE A FILM STAR AND BLAMED HER FOR EVERYTHING SAYING SHE SEDUCED HIM AND IT ONLY HAPPENED ONCE. I BELIEVED HIM FOR A WHILE BUT THERE WERE TOO MANY CRACKS IN HIS STORY AND I NOTICED SOME THINGS HE SAID ABOUT HER WERE SIMILAR THINGS THAT HE HAD SAID ABOUT YOU. READING YOUR STORY, AND SINCE TALKING TO SOME OF HIS EX’S, I NOW SEE THAT HE IS A COMPULSIVE, REPETATIVE CHEAT. I HAVE NO DOUBT THAT HE WILL DO IT AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN.
    I WISH I COULD CHANGE WHAT HAS HAPPENED BUT I CAN’T. THE ONLY THING I CAN DO IS APOLOGISE TO YOU FOR MY PART IN IT. I HONESTLY DIDN’T KNOW THAT HE WAS STILL LIVING AS A MARRIED MAN WHEN I MET HIM AND I’M SORRY TO HAVE HURT YOU. I WISH I HAD LISTENED TO MY FRIENDS WHO WARNED ME AGAINST HIM AND THE WARNING BELLS IN MY OWN HEAD.
    FIVE CHILDREN FROM FOUR MOTHERS IS A WARNING IN ITSELF. IF I’D DONE THE MATH, I WOULD HAVE REALISED THAT THE SECOND YOUNGEST CHILD FROM ANOTHER WOMAN OVERLAPPED YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM TOO.
    I HAVE NO DOUBT THAT, IN HIS MIND AND IN THE MIND OF HIS LATEST BRIDE, I AM NOW THE EVIL EX ALONG WITH YOURSELF AND ALL THE OTHERS. HE IS A TRUE NARCASIST.
    MY FAMILY AND ANYONE THAT KNOWS ME KNOWS I WOULD NEVER DO SOMETHING LIKE THIS BUT I’D APPRECIATE IT IF YOU TOOK THIS INFORMATION OFF THESE SITES.
    OBVIOUSLY IT’S YOUR CALL.
    MEREDITH, I WISH YOU NOTHING BUT HAPPINESS WITH YOUR NEW LOVE AND I’M TRULY SORRY FOR ANY HURT WHICH I HELPED TO CAUSE IN YOUR LIFE.

  4. I would like to publicly advise that I did not write this trash. The person who posted obviously knows a little about the situation but not much else. Pam’s reply is a lot closer to the truth (other than believing I was the one who posted it). I don’t consider myself a victim like the person who posted this drivel and celebrated when the divorce was granted and again when the decree nisi came through.

    I would never write anything like the above story on a public website. If anyone deserves to be named and shamed here it is BRYAN ADRIAN MIDDLETON – BRISBANE. D.O.B. 26 APRIL 1965.

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